Helping a Child Who Acts Out During Divorce

 Posted on November 21, 2024 in Divorce

Divorce can be hard on children. Their lives change drastically when their parents establish two separate households that the child likely has to move back and forth between according to your temporary child custody order. It is unsurprising that some children struggle to cope with their parents’ divorces and begin acting out. Although the transition might be difficult for your children, know that getting divorced is likely best for your child in the long run. Children who grow up with parents who are unhappily married are often worse off than children whose parents are divorced and happy. Your children will adapt in time, but may require some extra help while they are settling into a new routine. An experienced Novi, MI divorce lawyer can handle the legal aspects of your divorce while you focus on your children.

When to Seek Professional Help 

Involving a therapist should not be a last resort. If you can tell that your child is struggling with the divorce and could use some help processing his feelings, therapy might be good for him. A therapist is a neutral third party who the child can be open and honest with. Your child may be happy to talk to a therapist about things he or she might not be comfortable addressing with you. Therapists who work with children are usually highly experienced in treating children whose parents are getting divorced.

Be Firm, But Understanding 

Approach your child from a place of understanding. Know that your child’s misbehavior likely stems from the stress he or she is experiencing as a result of your divorce, and keep that in mind when disciplining your child. Make sure your child knows that you understand why he or she is acting this way, but the behavior cannot continue.

Take Extra Time With Your Children 

It is very important for your children to understand that both parents still love them very much and they are not the cause of the divorce. Spending extra time with your children or taking them on a fun outing can be a good way to keep your bond strong and show your children that you value them.

Keep Your Kids Out of the Conflict 

Unless there are extenuating circumstances, such as one parent having abused the child, it is best to insulate your children from the conflict between you and your spouse. One of the best ways to do that is to create a parenting time plan out of court by mutual agreement. This way, your child does not have to come to court or see a guardian ad litem. It is also best to avoid disparaging your spouse in front of your children, no matter how angry you are at your spouse.

Contact a Novi, MI Divorce Lawyer 

Elkouri Heath, PLC recognizes the emotional challenges that come with divorce. Our dedicated Oakland County, MI divorce and child custody attorneys will strive to help you do what is best for your children. Contact us at 248-344-9700 for a complimentary consultation.