4 Things Most Divorcing Spouses Can Agree On

 Posted on October 09, 2024 in Divorce

You and your spouse might not agree on many things by the time you decide to divorce. Your opinions on politics, religion, childrearing, and financial matters may differ drastically these days. However, if you are planning to attempt an uncontested divorce, you will need to agree on a lot of things, including how to divide up your marital property and how to function as co-parents. Even if your divorce is amicable, creating a divorce agreement you are both willing to sign can be difficult. Mediation can help, or you might decide to use attorney-facilitated negotiation if your relationship is quite tense. However you decide to approach your divorce, you should be represented by an experienced Oakland County, MI divorce attorney.

What You And Your Spouse Might Already Agree On 

Establishing common ground can be a productive start to divorce mediation or negotiations. You and your spouse probably already agree that: 

• You want what is best for the children - As parents, you are probably used to putting your children first. You can likely agree that you both want to create a parenting plan that puts your children’s needs first. You will probably disagree on exactly what type of custody arrangement is best for the children, but keeping the discussion focused on them can keep it productive. 
• You do not want the divorce to take longer or cost more than it has to - Almost no one wants their divorce to take years and cost tens of thousands of dollars if it can be resolved quickly and cost much less. Litigation can be a slow and expensive process. If you can start by agreeing that you want to resolve your divorce out of court and in a reasonable amount of time, you might have greater success in compromising. 
• Some items clearly belong to one spouse - Even if a certain item is technically marital property, there are probably quite a few things that should clearly remain in one spouse’s possession. Family heirlooms that were not technically inherited are a common example. 
• Bringing up old arguments is unhelpful - Discussing the issues that led to your divorce during settlement talks is unproductive and could derail the discussion. If you and your spouse were going to be able to resolve your marital disputes, you would probably not be getting divorced. 

There are always exceptions where the spouses cannot agree on these things. If you can, you have an excellent starting point for mediation or negotiation.

Contact a Northville, MI Divorce Mediation Lawyer 

Elkouri Heath, PLC is committed to helping spouses resolve their divorces as peacefully as possible. Our experienced Oakland County, MI divorce attorneys recognize the emotional challenges of divorce and will help keep your uncontested divorce proceedings as stress-free as possible. Contact us at 248-344-9700 for a complimentary consultation.